Women, Tell Your Men These Things

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Men need to feel emotionally safe. Tell him he can open up to you about his feelings

Men grow up being told they have to act a certain way to be a real man. One lie men are told is they’re supposed to keep their emotions to themselves. So men go about their lives keeping their pain and hurt a secret, thinking this is what they’re supposed to do. When these feelings are held in for too long, they eventually have to come out. And often it comes out in the form of anger, or aggression, or substance abuse.

Men need to feel attractive. Tell your man he’s handsome.

It’s nice when you’ve gotten all dressed up and you get compliments about how nice you look. Men also need to hear this. Don’t just let him know that he looks sharp in a tuxedo, or that he looks good in a suit. A tuxedo and a suit are things he can purchase and can control.

Men need to feel that they have purpose and can provide. Tell him you appreciate him.

Men need to feel appreciated. It helps them feel validated, and gives them purpose and value. The next time your man helps plan a trip, or fixes something in the house, or goes first into a dark room, or makes you dinner — tell him how much you appreciate him doing those things.

Dad. Husband. Army vet. Enjoy running, cycling, cooking, and guitar.

Dad. Husband. Army vet. Enjoy running, cycling, cooking, and guitar.