We Change More Than We Realize

Just look at who you are compared to 10 years ago

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But the reality is we’re always changing, in very real ways.

Don’t think you’ve changed in your 30s or 40s? As we enter the new decade, it’s worth taking a look at yourself now versus who you were in 2010.

We don’t even have the same taste in music year to year, so undoubtedly, there’s been a lot of change in you over the last decade.

Whether it’s things around your faith, feelings about diversity and belonging, your politics, attitude towards equality for all, or a big lifestyle change you’ve made in your fitness or diet, chances are, you’re markedly different now

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Me in 2010

  1. I was embarrassed to sing in public or show PDA
  2. I thought the art of manliness required real men not to cry
  3. I didn’t go to therapy because I thought going to therapy was only for weaklings
  4. The men in my family don’t talk about their feelings, and I thought it was a cycle that couldn’t be broken
  5. I never said, “I love you,” to the people in my life I care most about
  6. I practiced my Christian faith by focusing on a few things (no sex before marriage, no swearing, going to church on Sundays) and judging others that didn’t do the same
  7. I was convinced that to lead in my family (I have 7 siblings) I had to be perfect, or at least give the impression that I was perfect

Me Today

  1. I sing in public all the time, and my wife knows that even in public, she’s still getting all the kisses
  2. I cry all the time. I cry when I watch a good movie. I cry when the sunrise is especially magical. I cry when I have tough conversations with my wife
  3. I’ve been going to therapy every week for nearly two years now. Taking care of your mental health and going to therapy is a sign of strength
  4. To break a cycle, you have to be vulnerable, and courageous, and take the lead. And that’s what I’ve done in my family
  5. I say, “I love you,” to my family, and friends, and people I care about all the time
  6. My Christian faith isn’t based on following rules, but on loving others: “For now there are faith, hope, and love. But of these three, the greatest is love” — 1 Corinthians 13:13
  7. Leading in my family doesn’t mean I have to be perfect. It means showing my full, true self. This makes me more relatable, and a better leader for my siblings

Dad. Husband. Army vet. Enjoy running, cycling, cooking, and guitar.