This Is The Most Important Quality In A Life Partner

Find someone with this quality, and you’ll experience the relationship you deserve

Photo by Arun Anoop on Unsplash
  • Kind
  • Intelligent
  • Understands the importance of family
  • Shared values
  • Shared faith
Photo by Rowan Chestnut on Unsplash

“The capability of individuals to recognize their own emotions and those of others, discern between different feelings and label them appropriately, use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior, and manage and/or adjust emotions to adapt to environments or achieve one’s goals”

Emotionally Intelligent people:

  • Recognize the emotions of others
  • Are in tune with their feelings
  • Use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior
  • Manage/adjust emotions to adapt to environments
Photo by Hian Oliveira on Unsplash

They show empathy

I remember seeing a video by Brene Brown talking about the difference between sympathy and empathy. With sympathy, a friend passes by and sees you in a deep, dark pit. They see you and yell down they see you, but don’t offer to help.

Someone with empathy climbs down into the deep, dark pit with you and acknowledges it’s deep and dark. They remind you they know what it’s like down there, and you’re not alone.

People with high EQ can show a lot of empathy because they connect with the emotions and feelings you’re going through. They put themselves in your shoes and connect with what you’re struggling with.

They communicate their feelings

People with high EQ are acutely aware of what they’re feeling and can communicate it. They know the importance of keeping you informed about what’s going on in their head.

It’s so important to find a partner who can communicate their feelings, so you’re not left wondering or making assumptions.

Since neither of you is a mind-reader, it’s critical that both partners can recognize their feelings — and even more importantly — communicate them in a loving and empathetic way.

They’re a good listener

My wife is so patient with me, and such a good listener. It can be hard for me to share my feelings when I’m depressed, so it’s so important that my wife is a good listener. To best support me, she gives me her full attention so she can truly understand the emotions and feelings I’m experiencing.

Photo by Bewakoof.com Official on Unsplash

They’re balanced and self aware

People like my wife who have a high EQ are balanced and self aware. They understand who they are, and this allows them to better understand others.

So many of us move through this world living in fear. Fear of loving, fear of being rejected, fear of not being good enough.

People with high EQ aren’t immune to this, but because they understand themselves deeply, they can keep these negative thoughts in check.

Dad. Husband. Army vet. Enjoy running, cycling, cooking, and guitar.